Intelligence Squared

Women’s Prize-winner Rachel Clarke in conversation with Rob Delaney (Part Two)

December 22, 2025

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  • The humanity of medicine, particularly in pediatrics and palliative care, is crucial because roles like play specialists can be literally life-saving by providing joy and context to suffering children, which technical skill alone cannot achieve. 
  • Modern surgeons, exemplified by Asif Hassan, contrast sharply with historical egotistical figures, emphasizing teamwork and recognizing the donor's altruism as the most important element in a transplant. 
  • The core message of the conversation is that choosing to love and remain open to connection, despite the inevitable pain of loss, is the fundamental arithmetic of a meaningful human life. 

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WaterAid Partnership Announcement
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  • Key Takeaway: Intelligence Squared is partnering with WaterAid to highlight global clean water access issues through a special episode.
  • Summary: The podcast promotes a partnership with WaterAid, featuring a special episode where journalist Coco Khan interviews Amika Godfrey, WaterAid’s Executive Director of International Programmes. Godfrey has over 25 years of experience in the water, sanitation, and hygiene sector. The full conversation, titled ‘Everything Starts With Water,’ was released on December 17th.
Indeed Hiring Advertisement
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  • Key Takeaway: Indeed Sponsored Jobs are 90% more likely to result in a hire than non-sponsored jobs, offering targeted reach.
  • Summary: Indeed promotes its Sponsored Jobs feature, which helps posts stand out to quality candidates by allowing employers to set detailed requirements like experience level and skills. Companies using this service can reach the exact people they want faster, paying only for results without subscriptions. Listeners can receive a $75 sponsored job credit by visiting indeed.com/slash intelligence squared.
Introduction to Rachel Clarke Conversation
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  • Key Takeaway: The episode rejoins Part Two of the live event featuring Rachel Clarke and Rob Delaney discussing ‘The Story of a Heart’.
  • Summary: Producer Mia Saranti introduces the continuation of the live event at the Kiln Theatre, featuring Dr. Rachel Clarke discussing her Women’s Prize-winning book. The conversation with Rob Delaney focuses on compassion, family, medical innovation, and the NHS.
Importance of Play Specialists
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  • Key Takeaway: Beyond technical skill, human elements like play specialists are vital in pediatrics and palliative care, sometimes being the primary factor keeping a child alive.
  • Summary: Medicine is usually more complicated than pure technical prowess, except in rare moments like CPR. Play specialists are crucial for children like Max, providing joy and explaining complex procedures through play, which warrants immediate salary increases.
Compassion and Animal Therapy
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  • Key Takeaway: Acts of kindness, such as allowing beloved pets near the dying, are powerful medicines that prioritize the patient’s humanity over clinical procedures.
  • Summary: Rob Delaney shared an anecdote about the measurable joy a dog brought his son on a cancer ward. Dr. Clarke confirmed that palliative care teams facilitate bringing animals, even a prize-winning bull, to patients. These moments demonstrate that compassion is often the most powerful medicine at the bedside.
Surgeons’ Character and Teamwork
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  • Key Takeaway: Modern heart surgeons require immense steeliness under pressure but are generally not the egotistical psychopaths of the past, often viewing themselves as one part of a larger team.
  • Summary: While some surgeons might exhibit psychopathic traits, most are not, needing unusual pressure coping mechanisms to perform complex procedures like heart transplants. Asif Hassan exemplifies modern surgeons by prioritizing the donor’s altruism and viewing his role as a necessary step in a longer process, not the central focus.
Max and Kira’s Law Impact
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  • Key Takeaway: Max and Kira’s Law shifted organ donation to presumed consent, increasing donation rates, but the most critical action remains families openly discussing their wishes.
  • Summary: The law changed the default from opting-in to opting-out, though families are always consulted before organ retrieval. Evidence suggests this change has increased donations, saving lives from the 8,000+ people on the waiting list. Families knowing a loved one’s wishes increases consent rates from 60% to 90%.
Update on Max’s Life
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  • Key Takeaway: Max, seven years post-transplant, is thriving as a tall teenager pursuing goals like joining the fire brigade, despite the ongoing reality of transplant management.
  • Summary: Max is now over six feet tall, has completed his GCSEs, and is considering joining the fire brigade while enjoying mixed martial arts and concerts. He must adhere to strict medication schedules due to the risk of rejection, as heart transplants have an average lifespan, but he is currently living his life fully.
Shopify and Progressive Ads
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  • Key Takeaway: Shopify powers 10% of US e-commerce, and Progressive offers easy bundling discounts for home and auto insurance.
  • Summary: Shopify is promoted as the commerce platform making it easy to start and run a business, offering a $1 per month trial. Progressive Insurance encourages listeners to check eligibility for savings by bundling policies, a process that takes only minutes.
Columbia and Corona Ads
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  • Key Takeaway: Columbia engineers gear for extreme nature, while Corona promotes bringing the ‘La Playa mentality’ anywhere with a squeeze of lime.
  • Summary: Columbia emphasizes engineering products for all of nature’s extremes, from heat to cold. Corona suggests that the beach vibe can be achieved anywhere, encouraging listeners to embrace ‘La Playa mentality’ responsibly.
Takeaway Message: Humanity Amidst Conflict
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  • Key Takeaway: Stories of profound human kindness, like organ donation amid devastating loss, serve as a necessary counterpoint to the overwhelming negative news cycle of war and conflict.
  • Summary: Dr. Clarke urged the audience to talk to their families about organ donation wishes, noting that children often readily agree to help others. She argued that acts of altruism by grieving families are as emblematic of human nature as global conflicts. Choosing to stand up for humanity, even when one’s own world is imploding, is a story worth telling.
Q&A: Burden of Writing Painful Stories
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  • Key Takeaway: Writing about trauma requires careful timing, ideally ‘from the scar, not from the wound,’ to mitigate the personal cost of reliving distress.
  • Summary: Rob Delaney admitted that writing his book immediately after his loss was painful, suggesting it is better to write from the scar rather than the fresh wound. Dr. Clarke noted that while sharing trauma is important to prevent isolation, it takes a toll, requiring self-care outside of work.
Q&A: Adult vs. Child Transplant Experience
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  • Key Takeaway: Children’s wards in the NHS are generally better equipped for patient experience than adult wards, though transplant care is an exception where adults often receive superb, patient-centered attention.
  • Summary: The NHS often recognizes the need for specialized environments for children, including play areas and teenage-specific resources. However, adult transplant care is frequently cited as an area where intensive, human-kind care is successfully provided. Rob Delaney contrasted this with the US system, highlighting the relief of not stressing over insurance coverage within the NHS.
Q&A: Respite from Palliative Care Trauma
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  • Key Takeaway: The antidote to the pain inherent in loving deeply is refusing to stop loving, recognizing that the depth of pain equals the depth of love experienced.
  • Summary: Dr. Clarke’s respite involves focusing on simple, life-affirming activities outside of work and embracing the inescapable arithmetic of life: pain equals love. To protect oneself from pain by stopping love is to waste the precious, finite spark of time granted to humans.
Closing Remarks and Credits
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  • Key Takeaway: Listeners are encouraged to become Intelligence Squared members for ad-free content and to check out future events.
  • Summary: The event concludes with thanks to Dr. Rachel Clarke and Rob Delaney, who will be signing books upstairs. Production credits are given to Ginny Hooker and Mark Roberts. Membership details are provided for ad-free episodes and event access.
Cisco Duo and Dupixent Ads
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  • Key Takeaway: Cisco Duo offers end-to-end fishing resistance for logins, and Dupixent is an add-on treatment for chronic rhinosinusitis with nasal polyps.
  • Summary: Cisco Duo protects against phishing by securing every login and device. Dupixent is an injectable maintenance treatment for adults and children 12+ with uncontrolled nasal polyps, offering an alternative to surgery. Potential side effects of Dupixent include severe allergic reactions and worsening eye problems, requiring consultation with a doctor.
McDonald’s and AT&T Ads
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  • Key Takeaway: McDonald’s offers McValue Meal Deals starting at $5, and AT&T has a promotion for a new iPhone 17 Pro with eligible trade-in.
  • Summary: McDonald’s features $5, $6, and $7 McValue Meal Deals, each including a small fry, drink, and four-piece McNuggets. AT&T is offering the new iPhone 17 Pro on them to new and existing customers who trade in an iPhone 14 Pro Max or higher, regardless of condition, provided they are on the most expensive plan.