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Stassi Schroeder: A Proud Basic B*tch (FBF)

November 28, 2025

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  • Stassi Schroeder spent \$40,000 to purchase National OOTD Day for branding purposes, a decision she now views as embarrassing and a poor business move. 
  • Stassi believes 'basic' means unapologetically leaning into things that bring joy and are timeless, contrasting it with 'chugi,' which she associates with cringe. 
  • Stassi is considering using Ozempic post-pregnancy as an alternative to the restrictive bone broth diet she followed after her first child, highlighting a shift in her approach to postpartum recovery. 
  • Stassi Schroeder has evolved past the anxiety-ridden, blackout drinking phase of her 20s, now prioritizing peace and the power of saying 'no' in her 30s. 
  • Stassi defines 'dark passengering' as an uncontrollable surge of anger, often triggered by perceived abandonment, which she now recognizes as a reaction rooted in past infidelity experiences. 
  • Stassi no longer obsesses over her birthday, viewing her past 'birthday beast' behavior as 'main character energy' necessary for reality TV, and she knew her husband was 'the one' because he championed her 'basic bitch' self. 

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Pregnancy Feelings and Husband Support (Unknown)
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OOTD Holiday Spending Confession (Unknown)
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Fashion Staples and Gen Z Influence
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(00:13:22)
  • Key Takeaway: Stassi regrets wearing heavy statement necklaces in the past, but appreciates Gen Z’s ‘anything goes’ fashion mentality.
  • Summary: Stassi identified statement necklaces as a clothing staple she would not wear now, noting they felt like heavy armor. She credits Gen Z with giving her permission to wear what she likes, regardless of whether it is dated. This contrasts with her youth, where conforming to brands like Abercrombie was essential for social equity.
Prada Alignment and Shaving Anecdote
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(00:15:29)
  • Key Takeaway: Stassi felt comfortable and confident aligning with Prada, leading her to purchase items from the brand organically.
  • Summary: Stassi felt Prada was a natural fit for her style, unlike other fashion houses she might not have expected. She mentioned learning on Selling Sunset that pregnant women sometimes stop shaving due to inability to see, though she tries to maintain grooming through muscle memory. She advised listeners not to seek tutorials on shaving from the podcast.
Basic vs. Chugi and Trend Ratings
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(00:22:38)
  • Key Takeaway: Stassi defines ‘basic’ as leaning unapologetically into things that bring joy, while ‘chugi’ carries a cringe element.
  • Summary: Stassi rates Aperol Spritzes as the ‘most basic’ drink, which she craves while pregnant, and finds GRWM videos basic but enjoys making them. She considers Vanderpump Rules bar visits basic because they invite attention, and she rates Ozempic as basic because everyone is curious about it. She strongly believes in manifesting goals, citing her Spanish-style home purchase as a successful manifestation.
Scandoval Reaction and Reality TV Reflection
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(00:33:36)
  • Key Takeaway: The intensity of the ‘Scandoval’ event was comparable to a world event, making Stassi question her place in commenting due to her absence from the show.
  • Summary: Stassi felt the fallout from ‘Scandoval’ was a major event she couldn’t ignore, but hesitated to comment publicly as she is no longer on Vanderpump Rules. She believes Tom Sandoval has always been a ‘slime ball’ who deflects blame, contrary to his public image. She misses the camaraderie of filming but finds the current reality TV structure dark because success is tied to cast members hurting each other.
Growth Since Reality TV
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  • Key Takeaway: Stassi describes her past self as incredibly selfish, believing the world revolved around her, a quality she now recognizes as overrated.
  • Summary: Stassi admits her younger self was extremely selfish and felt her opinions were paramount, often using ‘I tell it like it is’ as an excuse. She now views that quality as overrated because it shows a disregard for how words affect others. She misses the recklessness of her 20s but finds more peace and happiness now by not living solely for herself.
Aging and Anxiety Reduction
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(00:49:14)
  • Key Takeaway: Aging brings a level of peace characterized by the absence of post-socializing anxiety about past behavior.
  • Summary: The speaker contrasts the fun of her 20s, which involved blacking out, with the calmer feeling in her 30s where she no longer wakes up with anxiety over what she might have said or done. Preferences change with age, leading to an appreciation for quieter activities like watching Downton Abbey. This shift reflects a greater sense of personal peace.
Power of Saying No
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(00:50:15)
  • Key Takeaway: Prioritizing personal happiness in one’s 30s involves confidently saying ’no’ without worrying about upsetting others.
  • Summary: A key benefit of being in her 30s is learning the power of declining requests, such as saying no to a FaceTime or delaying a text response, without fearing others’ reactions. This is framed not as selfishness, but as a necessary maturity and freedom to prioritize well-being. The speaker asserts that ’no’ is a complete answer and often requires no further explanation.
Drunk Personality Shift
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(00:51:25)
  • Key Takeaway: Due to motherhood, Stassi can no longer afford the full blackouts she experienced when drinking in her 20s.
  • Summary: In her 20s, Stassi would fully black out and not remember texts or conversations, often being highly emotional. Now, as a mother, she cannot let drinking get too far, resulting in less personality shift when she drinks, suggesting she remains more consistent with her sober self. She concludes she is simply having a better time in her 30s because she avoids getting obliterated.
Defining Dark Passengering
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  • Key Takeaway: Dark passengering is defined as an uncontrollable state where anger is the only emotion, causing the individual to ‘see red.’
  • Summary: Stassi explains that dark passengering became a term used when she would go ‘absolutely psycho’ on her partner, involving breaking phones, excessive texting, and threats of violence when she didn’t get her way. This behavior often stemmed from wanting to leave parties early while her partner wanted to stay out later, triggering past trust issues related to infidelity. She notes that anger is the only emotion that overtakes her in this state, leaving no room for logic.
Red Flags in Partying
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  • Key Takeaway: A partner consistently wanting to stay out late or going out without you is a significant red flag.
  • Summary: The hosts agree that while occasional differences in wanting to go home are normal, a partner always lingering or going home alone is a major red flag. Stassi’s argument was always why a partner would prefer staying out over coming home to her, especially since she is not single. Past experiences of infidelity occurring after parties reinforced her trigger against partners wanting to stay out late.
Birthday Queen Evolution
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(00:58:53)
  • Key Takeaway: Stassi has moved past her reality TV-fueled obsession with her birthday, finding the current social media trend of ‘birthday month’ annoying.
  • Summary: Stassi admits she was a ‘birthday beast’ in the early seasons of Vanderpump Rules, possibly due to never having big parties as a summer baby. She stopped caring after the first few seasons, despite Bravo pushing the narrative that she was the ‘birthday queen.’ She now finds the concept of month-long birthday countdowns on social media annoying and relatable to the feeling of needing main character energy.
Missing Drama and Makeup Sex
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  • Key Takeaway: Stassi sometimes misses the excitement of drama, suggesting that a little friction can lead to passionate makeup sex.
  • Summary: Stassi admits to sometimes missing the drama from reality TV and even suggests to her husband that they should fight so she can ‘dark passenger’ as it makes her feel passionate. She believes makeup sex is fun, but notes that men often struggle to play the role of fighting when it is not genuine. She desires a little bit of fear of loss to keep the relationship dynamic.
Therapy and Trust Issues
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  • Key Takeaway: Couples therapy early in a relationship is crucial for working through individual baggage before it breaks the partnership.
  • Summary: Stassi and her partner began therapy early on to address her trust issues stemming from past betrayals, even though her partner had given her no reason to distrust him. Therapy helped her articulate her feelings, allowing her partner to understand the impact of past events, leading to collaborative work. Starting therapy early is vital because it is the ‘make or break’ point where separate baggage needs to be addressed.
Stability Over Excitement
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  • Key Takeaway: The stability and shared values in her current relationship, rather than initial intense excitement, solidified it as the right choice.
  • Summary: Stassi chose her stable partner, Bo, despite him being the opposite of her past toxic, passionate relationships, which she now views as boring and transparent. They took things slowly, casually dating and getting to know each other, which built a solid foundation based on trust and communication. She realized that being able to enjoy mundane, monotonous moments together while parenting is more important than constant excitement.
Knowing He Was ‘The One’
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(01:07:34)
  • Key Takeaway: Stassi knew her husband was ’the one’ because he loved and championed her authentic self, including her ‘basic bitch’ traits.
  • Summary: She felt she could completely be herself around him without watching what she said or did, and she never felt insecure in that way. He didn’t just love her; he actively championed her, which she found to be a rare and desirable quality in a partner. This acceptance made her realize what she truly wanted in a relationship.
Thriving Through Sobriety and Work
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  • Key Takeaway: Stassi is currently thriving by balancing touring, writing a book, and co-hosting two podcasts while sober.
  • Summary: Stassi loves touring, finding the creative process of putting together the show challenging and rewarding, especially since she is sober, which gives her more energy than previous tours where she drank. She finds sobriety suits her, though she looks forward to drinking again post-childbirth. She manages two podcasts, one with her husband, making scheduling easier while on the road.