On Purpose with Jay Shetty

MADONNA: For the First Time Ever

September 29, 2025

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  • A spiritual life, defined as having an internal practice and seeking deeper meaning beyond external validation (money, fame, approval), is essential for navigating life's challenges and achieving true fulfillment. 
  • Success is redefined through a spiritual lens; Madonna asserts that one cannot be as successful without a spiritual path, viewing oneself as a manager, not the owner, of one's talents or 'light'. 
  • Radical acceptance—understanding that challenges are lessons meant to happen rather than punishments—is the key to escaping the victim mentality and moving past suffering, as demonstrated by Madonna's experiences with trauma and near-death events. 
  • True partnership with the universe requires a commitment to serving others, as generosity is our wired nature, despite societal conditioning toward greed. 
  • Forgiveness, especially for those closest to us, is a necessary act of self-liberation that removes the poison of holding grudges and allows for spiritual growth. 
  • Spiritual strength is found not in avoiding challenges, but in embracing discomfort and practicing 'certainty beyond logic' to recognize that obstacles are opportunities to reveal greater light. 
  • True spiritual fulfillment involves a total desire to receive for the sake of sharing, moving beyond personal accumulation. 
  • Never settle for less than your next level potential, as challenges are necessary catalysts for evolution. 
  • The ultimate purpose in this world, as exemplified by Madonna's path, can be to become a teacher for spiritual teachings one is studying, such as Kabbalah. 

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Madonna’s Interview Intention
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  • Key Takeaway: Madonna’s current interview intention is to share her spiritual life, not promote commercial work.
  • Summary: Madonna has historically used interviews to promote music or films, but her current purpose for speaking with Jay Shetty is to discuss her spiritual path of over 28 years. She believes this wisdom is the key to her sanity and longevity, sharing it because it has essentially saved her life. She explicitly states she is not promoting a product or asking anyone to buy anything.
Defining Spirituality and Kabbalah
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  • Key Takeaway: Spirituality is defined as cultivating an internal life and practice to find peace beyond external approval or material success.
  • Summary: Madonna has been studying Kabbalah for 29 years (since 1996) with the same teacher, affirming its authenticity by her long commitment. A spiritual life requires an internal practice—prayer, meditation, or contemplation—to counteract the noise and distraction of the modern world. Without this, life is perceived as random events, whereas spirituality allows one to seek the lesson in every occurrence.
Spiritual Practice and Rituals
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  • Key Takeaway: Consistent study and recognizing the purpose behind physical practices are crucial components of a spiritual ritual.
  • Summary: A core ritual for Madonna is making time every week to study spiritual texts, which she has done across various traditions before settling on Kabbalah. Her experience with Ashtanga yoga taught her that the physical poses are secondary; the true practice is breathing to calm the nervous system and return to center. The concept of ‘desire and detachment’ was a key lesson learned from her yoga teacher, emphasizing wanting pleasures without being attached to them.
Maternity as Spiritual Catalyst
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  • Key Takeaway: The realization of impending motherhood forced Madonna to seek deeper meaning beyond her ambitious, self-focused career.
  • Summary: Becoming pregnant with her daughter Lola prompted Madonna to question what she would teach her child, realizing her previous life was driven by ambition and survival instincts without true consciousness. She felt like a ‘slave or victim of other people’s opinions’ despite outward confidence, leading her to seek answers. Her introduction to Kabbalah came from a dinner party invitation while pregnant, where she sought a philosophy that offered real purpose beyond fame and fortune.
Spirituality and Artistic Channeling
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  • Key Takeaway: Madonna’s spiritual study directly influenced her art, leading her to view herself as a vessel channeling light.
  • Summary: The album Ray of Light was 100% influenced by her spiritual practice, opening a door to channeling ideas and visions. She realized that creative channeling taps into another dimension, making miracles a non-random concept. Her teacher emphasized that she is the manager, not the owner, of her talent, which helps prevent the ego inflation that can destroy highly successful artists.
Navigating Trauma and Pain
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  • Key Takeaway: Early life trauma and career challenges were survived through a protective instinct, but true consciousness arrived later through study.
  • Summary: Madonna survived severe early traumas, including assault and robbery in New York, feeling protected by a ‘guardian angel’ until she became conscious of this protection later in life. She notes that the more conscious one tries to become, the more tests life presents, as life is fundamentally a series of tests, not punishments. The greatest pain she experienced was during a custody battle, which forced her to confront the lesson of radical acceptance regarding abandonment.
Radical Acceptance in Crisis
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  • Key Takeaway: Radical acceptance—acknowledging that suffering is karmically meant to be experienced and learned from—is the path to healing.
  • Summary: Radical acceptance means accepting what is happening is meant to happen and that one will ultimately be okay, which is the opposite of feeling like one has drawn the wrong card. Madonna experienced this during a severe sepsis illness where her recovery timeline was unknown; her teacher advised that the sooner she accepted the uncertainty, the sooner it would end. This acceptance shifts focus from self-pity to accountability: asking what lesson is present rather than blaming others or oneself.
Conscious Manifestation Defined
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  • Key Takeaway: True manifestation requires the consciousness that one is channeling a gift from a higher source, not achieving success solely through personal effort.
  • Summary: If success is manifested without the consciousness that it is a gift from the universe, that success will eventually become finite because the ego claims ownership. Manifesting with consciousness means recognizing one is a vessel, requiring work to maintain that awareness, and understanding that one is in partnership with the divine. Desiring things purely for selfish reasons (like accumulating wealth) leads to short-lived happiness, whereas desiring things for the sake of sharing is conscious manifestation.
Generosity vs. Greed Conditioning
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  • Key Takeaway: Human wiring favors generosity, but societal education often promotes greed, creating internal friction.
  • Summary: Everything in the universe is designed to give and serve; acting against this by not serving creates friction within the individual. Research confirms that people feel more joy when helping others than when focusing only on themselves. Unconditioning the ’every man for himself’ mindset requires consistent ritualistic moments of self-reflection on one’s service to others.
Intentionality and Self-Awareness
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  • Key Takeaway: True success is defined by intention and consciousness in creative work and actions, moving beyond the initial desire to simply ‘be somebody.’
  • Summary: Madonna realized her initial goal of making a difference became clearer: recognizing that her words and actions carry weight and gravity. This clarity requires asking ‘Why am I doing this?’ for every endeavor, which is rooted in intention and consciousness. This level of awareness surpasses simple self-awareness, which can sometimes imply selfishness.
The Paradox of Light and Darkness
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  • Key Takeaway: Spiritual wisdom is most potent when applied during challenging, dark moments, as these are opportunities to bring light.
  • Summary: Life is a paradox requiring one to live in the ‘both/and’ rather than ’either/or,’ recognizing that the greatest light is revealed in darkness. Challenging moments are the true test of spiritual wisdom, not times when everything is going well. When happy, one must maintain humility and gratitude, remembering that circumstances can change at any moment.
The Weight of Forgiveness
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  • Key Takeaway: Holding onto grudges is a self-imposed prison and poison, making forgiveness essential for personal liberation, even when betrayed by loved ones.
  • Summary: Madonna described the difficulty of forgiving those closest who betray you, noting that vengeful thoughts offer no magical power but only weigh one down. She realized through a near-death experience that forgiveness was necessary for her own peace, leading her to reconcile with her brother before his death. Harsh words create energy that cannot be taken back, but forgiving others and oneself can change one’s karmic destiny.
Personal and Global Responsibility
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  • Key Takeaway: Studying Kabbalah emphasizes personal accountability and karma, suggesting that global struggles often result from collective human selfishness.
  • Summary: Taking responsibility is a core lesson, meaning individuals are accountable for their part in the world’s state, not just observing external issues. If humanity collectively evolves its consciousness, the balance of the world can shift toward the better. This wisdom is shared practically to help others transform their challenges rather than remaining esoteric.
Eitan’s Spiritual Awakening
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  • Key Takeaway: Eitan Yardeni found his life’s mission in Kabbalah at age 17 after a single lesson resonated so deeply it prevented him from sleeping for three nights.
  • Summary: Eitan grew up in a non-religious family in Israel but sought deeper life questions from a young age. His brother introduced him to the Kabbalah Center, where he met his teacher, Rav Berg. The initial lesson on the universe’s beginning and human purpose immediately felt like coming home, leading him to commit the next 40 years to studying and teaching.
Madonna’s Initial Kabbalah Experience
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  • Key Takeaway: Madonna initially sought anonymity in her spiritual studies, finding refuge in the classroom where her fame was ignored.
  • Summary: Eitan first met Madonna when she was brought to a class by a friend, and he did not recognize her, as he was deeply focused on his mission. Madonna appreciated the anonymity of the setting, where she could sit in the back of a room with folding chairs without being bothered by her celebrity status. She valued the studies because the concepts aligned with science and explained things logically, unlike her previous religious upbringing.
History of Kabbalah Texts
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  • Key Takeaway: The core wisdom of Kabbalah is contained in the three-page Book of Formation and the foundational Book of the Zohar, which decodes the Bible.
  • Summary: The first written Kabbalistic text was the three-page Book of Formation by Abraham the Patriarch, written in a highly coded manner. The main text, the Book of the Zohar (Book of Splendor), was revealed 2,000 years ago to decode the Torah. Kabbalah seeks to answer the ‘whys’ of life, the soul’s journey, and why struggle exists despite an infinite Creator.
Overcoming the Inner Opponent
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  • Key Takeaway: The greatest gift from the Creator is the opportunity to overcome the negative force within, as this struggle allows one to become a co-creator.
  • Summary: The existence of destructive forces within us is the mechanism provided by the light to allow us to grow and experience fulfillment. Without an opponent or challenge, one cannot appreciate the force of love or light, similar to how a soccer player needs a goalie to make scoring fun. Recognizing that the inner opponent is a gift, not a punishment, is the first step toward transformation.
Four Steps to Inner Strength
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  • Key Takeaway: To handle challenges, one must pause, embrace the discomfort without fixing it immediately, affirm inner light, and then seek guidance.
  • Summary: When facing a challenge or a trigger of lack (like comparison), the first step is to pause and declare it an ‘opportunity’ to reveal greater light. Second, one must embrace and allow the difficult feelings without immediately trying to fix them, which builds trust beyond logic. Third, affirm that ‘All the light I need is within me now,’ and finally, ask the universe to show the way forward when less reactive.
Parenting and Letting Go of Control
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  • Key Takeaway: The primary lesson children teach parents is the need to let go of control and expectations, as suffering arises from trying to dictate outcomes.
  • Summary: Madonna identified that her ongoing challenge is releasing expectations and over-worrying about her children’s paths, realizing she cannot control their journey. The lesson repeated by this challenge is that trying to control outcomes leads to suffering, a lesson children perfectly illustrate by always following their own path. Overgiving to children, driven by a parent’s past pain, is called ‘bread of shame’ in Kabbalah, as it hurts them long-term by removing their need to earn.
Soul Purpose and Sharing
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  • Key Takeaway: The soul’s purpose is to receive gifts and desires specifically for the sake of sharing them with the world, not for personal hoarding.
  • Summary: Madonna stated her purpose is to reveal light through everything she does, wanting ‘it all’ but only for the sake of sharing, not keeping it for herself. Eitan’s purpose is the personal transformation toward total connection with the Creator, achieved by embodying the desire to receive solely for the sake of sharing. Never settling for less than one’s next level potential is crucial, as challenges are necessary steps toward that evolution.
Desire and Sharing Purpose
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  • Key Takeaway: Spiritual practice is not about monastic withdrawal but about desiring everything for the sake of sharing it.
  • Summary: Madonna clarifies that her spiritual path is not about renouncing worldly desires but about wanting everything to share it with others. The goal is total transformation and receiving for the sake of sharing, underpinned by certainty beyond logic. Connecting with the purpose of sharing is a primary way to achieve this deep connection to the soul.
Avoiding Spiritual Perfectionism
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  • Key Takeaway: Spiritual lessons can be taken to an imbalanced place, leading to self-criticism like feeling ‘something is wrong with me.’
  • Summary: One pitfall in spiritual growth is becoming overly perfectionistic, taking lessons to an imbalanced extreme. A core message is never to settle for less than one’s potential, recognizing that the current state is just the beginning of the next level. Past challenges were necessary steps that helped facilitate current evolution.
Closing Gratitude and Future Quest
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  • Key Takeaway: The studies offered through this conversation aim to prompt spiritual seekers toward asking deeper questions about their soul’s purpose.
  • Summary: Jay Shetty expresses deep gratitude to Madonna and Eitan for sharing their time and energy. The hope is that the shared wisdom encourages listeners to ask deeper questions and begin their quest to overcome obstacles and realize their soul’s true purpose. Both guests are acknowledged for actively living out their own purposes.
Recommendation: Rick Rubin Episode
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  • Key Takeaway: The episode with Rick Rubin offers guidance on breaking into one’s most creative self using unconventional methods.
  • Summary: Listeners seeking creativity and building should listen to the episode featuring Rick Rubin. That discussion covers using unconventional methods that lead to success in creative endeavors. The secret to genuinely loving what you do is also explored in that specific episode.
Sponsor Plug: ParkWiz
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  • Key Takeaway: ParkWiz allows users to reserve parking in advance, potentially saving up to 50% compared to drive-up rates.
  • Summary: ParkWiz is presented as a hack for New Yorkers to secure parking ahead of time. Reserving parking in advance helps skip the hassle of searching for a spot. Users can save money by booking through the app before arriving at their destination.
Sponsor Plug: MLV Volleyball
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  • Key Takeaway: Major League Volleyball (MLV) is the most established women’s pro volleyball league in the U.S., launching Season 3 in January 2026.
  • Summary: MLV is a new unified league where top stars compete at the highest level of women’s professional volleyball in the U.S. Fans can join the movement by visiting ProVolleyball.com. The league encourages following their action on Instagram and YouTube.