Good Life Project

Reimagining Midlife: My 2x20 Project™ Update & the Power of Experiments

November 6, 2025

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  • The core concept of the 2x20 Project™ is to run intentional experiments over two years to set the foundation for the next twenty years of life, centered around three guiding qualities (which evolved from simplicity, significance, and joy to lightness, meaning, and joy). 
  • A good life must be filtered through three interconnected 'Good Life Buckets': Vitality (mind/body state), Connection (relationships), and Contribution (devoted effort/work), as everything affects everything. 
  • Life redesign should be approached through running structured, assessed experiments rather than immediate commitment or purely intellectual planning, as demonstrated by the host's realization that formal coaching certifications were less effective than direct 'learn by doing' coaching engagements. 
  • The speaker is actively experimenting with his public writing commitment, reducing frequency to create space for longer-form book writing, which he prioritizes more highly. 
  • The 2x20 Project™ requires examining all long-standing endeavors, including the Good Life Project podcast and the SparkaType body of work, to determine their continuing role and alignment with evolving interests. 
  • Manifesting desired life changes is a perpetual unfolding driven by action and experimentation, not just thought, and avoiding fear is crucial to returning to one's truest self. 

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Introduction to 2x20 Project
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  • Key Takeaway: The 2x20 project is an intentional, two-year redesign of life to set the foundation for the next 20 fulfilling years.
  • Summary: The host introduces the concept of the 2x20 project—a two-year window for learning and doing to set up the next two decades centered on lightness, meaning, and joy. He notes the two-year window is closing and he is sharing the final chapter of this intensive phase.
Sponsor Messages and Transition
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  • Key Takeaway: The podcast is sponsored by Whole Foods Market, Pura, and Gab.
  • Summary: The host delivers sponsor messages for Whole Foods Market, Pura (smart home fragrance), and Gab (kid-safe technology).
Recap of 2x20 Foundation
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  • Key Takeaway: The core of the 2x20 is defining three guiding qualities (initially simplicity, significance, joy) and running experiments over two years to set up the next 20.
  • Summary: The host revisits the 2x20 blueprint, explaining it’s about setting up the next 20 years around three defining qualities. He shares that his initial words evolved to ’lightness, meaning, and joy.'
Evolution of Guiding Words
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  • Key Takeaway: Simplicity evolved to Lightness, focusing on cultivating an internal response to complexity rather than controlling external simplicity. Significance evolved to Meaning, focusing on internal validation over external mattering.
  • Summary: The host details how ‘simplicity’ shifted to ’lightness’ (cultivating an internal response to complexity) and ‘significance’ shifted to ‘meaning’ (internal sense of mattering). Joy remained the same.
The Three Good Life Buckets
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  • Key Takeaway: The 2x20 must be filtered through three interconnected buckets: Vitality (mind/body state), Connection (relationships), and Contribution (effort/work).
  • Summary: The host introduces the three ‘good life buckets’—Vitality, Connection, and Contribution—as necessary lenses for the 2x20 project, emphasizing that everything affects everything.
Core Guidelines for 2x20
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  • Key Takeaway: Key guidelines include using the guiding question as an anchor, always running experiments, maintaining action, and resisting early commitment.
  • Summary: The host lists core guidelines: anchor decisions with the guiding question (lightness, meaning, joy), run experiments, avoid inaction, and resist committing too early to allow possibilities to germinate.
The Power of Joyful Experiments
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  • Key Takeaway: The host developed a clear, executable framework for running ‘joyful experiments’ after realizing most people don’t approach life this way.
  • Summary: The host discusses the necessity of running experiments rather than just thinking through decisions, noting that his work with coaching clients revealed the need to distill his experiment-running process into a teachable framework.
Sponsor Messages Break
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  • Key Takeaway: The podcast is sponsored by Airbnb, BetterHelp, and PAKA Apparel.
  • Summary: Sponsor messages for Airbnb (hosting), BetterHelp (therapy), and PAKA Apparel (hoodies).
Vitality Bucket Experiments
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  • Key Takeaway: Vitality experiments focus on resilience and longevity, incorporating hiking, varied movement, resistance training for future self, and nutrition balance.
  • Summary: The host details vitality experiments, noting hiking is a non-negotiable practice that delivers lightness and joy. He discusses managing physical wear-and-tear by having swappable movement options and the necessity of resistance training for longevity.
Nutrition and Mindset in Vitality
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  • Key Takeaway: Nutrition experiments led to a focus on individualization and balance, backing off from militant dieting to prioritize psychological lightness and joy.
  • Summary: The host shares extensive nutrition experiments (fasting, keto, etc.) concluding that what works is highly individual. He emphasizes moderation and forgiveness in diet for psychological well-being.
Exploring Pain Reprocessing Therapy
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  • Key Takeaway: The host plans to experiment with modalities like Journal Speak to address chronic pain, recognizing the brain’s role in generating or alleviating somatic pain.
  • Summary: The host reveals he lives with chronic pain and plans to experiment with pain reprocessing therapy and Journal Speak, citing research on how the brain can generate or relieve pain, even after injury resolves.
Connection Bucket Experiments
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  • Key Takeaway: Connection is maintained through structured weekly check-ins with his wife (Stephanie) and micro-experiments ensuring regular remote and in-person contact with friends.
  • Summary: Connection is described as the oxygen filling the vitality space. The host highlights the powerful Sunday three-bucket check-ins with his wife and the practice of scheduling weekly calls/visits with friends.
Connection from Retreat and Coaching
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  • Key Takeaway: Hosting the 2x20 retreat and coaching clients unexpectedly provided a powerful boost to the host’s own connection bucket, despite his introversion.
  • Summary: The host notes that running the 2x20 retreat and coaching clients, which were contribution experiments, unexpectedly filled his connection bucket due to the vulnerability and shared experience with the participants.
Sponsor Messages Break
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  • Key Takeaway: The podcast is sponsored by Function Health, Peloton, and Rubrik.
  • Summary: Sponsor messages for Function Health (biomarker testing), Peloton (Cross Training Tread Plus), and Rubrik (AI agent monitoring).
2x20 Retreat Success
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  • Key Takeaway: The first 2x20 retreat was a resounding success, validating the hypothesis that this format delivers lightness, meaning, and joy, and will be continued.
  • Summary: The host describes the overwhelming success of the 20-person retreat, noting it checked all three guiding boxes (lightness, meaning, joy) and confirmed the desire to continue hosting these experiences.
Coaching Experiment Results
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  • Key Takeaway: Coaching was surprisingly energizing, leading to plans for structured, in-person kickoff sessions for future clients.
  • Summary: The experiment of taking on five coaching clients confirmed that coaching can be joyful for the host. He plans to limit clients, require in-person kickoff sessions in Boulder, and potentially extend those sessions to full days.
The Artist/Maker Confrontation
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  • Key Takeaway: The biggest shift is confronting the need to center making things with his hands (art, physical objects) rather than just screen-based creation.
  • Summary: The host discusses the seismic shift toward centering the ‘artist’—creating physical objects with his hands (metalsmithing, wood, paint) rather than just media or business, which he had avoided despite it being his purest maker impulse.
Writing: Public vs. Long Form
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  • Key Takeaway: The host pulled back on his weekly Substack writing because it reverted to a prescriptive ’teacher’ mode, distracting from his higher priority of writing long-form books.
  • Summary: The host reflects on his Substack experiment, noting he fell back into writing ‘how-to’ content instead of the intended aesthetic, story-driven artist writing. He is reassessing his public writing commitment to create space for his four planned books.
Adjusting Writing Commitments
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  • Key Takeaway: Reduced weekly writing prescription to create space for artistic courage.
  • Summary: The host dropped from weekly to monthly essays, actively trying to let the ‘artist take the lead’ in public writing, running an experiment to lighten scheduling commitments to find writing that feels alive, meaningful, and joyful.
Public Writing vs. Book Writing
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  • Key Takeaway: Public writing feels like an opportunity cost against writing the books the host cares about more.
  • Summary: The host wonders about the line between public writing and longer-form books, noting he knows the next four books he wants to write but feels public consumption takes energy away from them. He acknowledges the need to keep offering short-form work to support long-form income.
Examining Contribution Sacred Cows
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  • Key Takeaway: The 2x20 Project requires examining all enduring endeavors, including the podcast and Spark Endeavors, without sacred cows.
  • Summary: The host zooms out to examine his two major contribution buckets: the Good Life Project podcast and Spark Endeavors. He needed to assess if he should keep investing energy, change how he does them, or transition them out.
The Good Life Project Evolution
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  • Key Takeaway: The podcast must evolve to reflect the host’s changing interests while maintaining value for its large audience.
  • Summary: Reflecting on the podcast’s 13-year history and 100 million listens, the host discusses the challenge of keeping the show interesting for the audience while ensuring it remains a conduit for his own evolving curiosity, evidenced by running experiments like solo episodes and new series.
SparkType Body of Work Review
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  • Key Takeaway: The SparkType work has massive impact but creates tension due to the host being the sole resource.
  • Summary: The host discusses the success of the SparkType Assessment (over a million completions) and the need to figure out the best way forward for the brand and the body of work, including his potential role or the role of others.
Shifting from Learn to Create Mode
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  • Key Takeaway: The two-year experimental window is closing, leading to a shift from learning/exploring into focused creation and building.
  • Summary: The host notes the transition into the 20-year season of transformation, feeling clarity and momentum after six months of shifting from learning to building mode. The process felt joyful due to the grace afforded by the two-year timeline.
Vision for the Next 20 Years
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  • Key Takeaway: The next season centers on deepening relationships, maker work, focused coaching, and long-form writing/fiction.
  • Summary: The host outlines his future focus: deepening personal relationships, committing to mind/body care, bringing maker/artist work to center stage, refining coaching to focus on 2x20 guidance, and reallocating energy to books and potentially fiction.
Manifesting Through Doing
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  • Key Takeaway: Self-awareness and manifestation are perpetual unfoldings achieved by ‘doing’ experiments, not just thinking.
  • Summary: The journey taught that self-awareness is perpetual. Manifesting requires action—living your way to the answer—rather than letting fear stop you from returning to your truest self.
Invitation to Next Season Experiment
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  • Key Takeaway: Listeners are invited to run their own experiments to design their next great season of life.
  • Summary: The host turns the question back to the audience: What is their next season? What experiments must they run? He encourages committing two years to building a life that feels more alive, suggesting flexible timelines like 1x5 or 6 months in 2 years.